Navigating Towards Peace In Your Divorce

In our experience, we have found that for many clients, filing for a divorce can be a devastating and dreadful experience. However, for some clients, we have found that they feel it is the most logical decision they could make. These clients reach a place where they are at peace with their decision to divorce. You may be wondering if you can also transform your dreadful thoughts about divorce into experiencing peace during the process. In our experience, here are three ways we have witnessed clients do that:


Forgiveness is freeing, and some believe that it can be the best practice to implement if you want to experience total peace. Forgiving your former spouse can help you move on with your life. Also, forgive yourself. If your circumstances permit, we have found that external (and internal forgiveness) is very helpful to the divorce process. Some may define the act of forgiveness as simply to let go, release the hurt, confusion, devastation, and embrace the new chapter of your life. In contrast, we have watched clients turn unforgiveness into anger about the past and this causes them to become stuck. If you don’t let it go, some believe you may never truly be free, nor at peace with yourself.

Focus on You

Another way to find peace during your divorce is to make yourself a priority. Your mental health and well-being should be at the top of your list at this time. We have witness clients achieve this by tuning out the judgment of others, not comparing their relationship (or lack thereof) to someone else’s, and not reminiscing on the past. Clients have claimed that implementing self-care practices on a regular basis and develop a morning and evening routine helps greatly. Also, listen to the advice of a trusted divorce attorney who will help you legally navigate this phase of your life.

Find a Support System

Whether you’ve been married for a decade or just two years, the divorce process can be difficult. Therefore, in our view, it is important to surround yourself with people who understand your current situation. Find a top divorce attorney, and lean on them for sound legal advice. Having a solid support system is critical and it is one of the best ways to freely express your innermost thoughts without fear of being judged. The unbiased advice and their recommendations will further assist you in finding support and hopefully ultimately peace during your divorce proceedings.

All in all, divorce lawyers can attest that this process is pretty devastating for some couples. However, when you work with one of our skilled Bergen County, New Jersey, or Monmouth County, New Jersey divorce lawyers, we will help legally guide you through the process.

If you live in Bergen County or Monmouth County, New Jersey, and may be facing the possibility of divorce, to learn more, ask questions, and seek advice, give NJ “Super Lawyers Rising Star” divorce lawyer and family law attorney Sheena Burke Williams Esq. a call. She’d love to talk.


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